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Couples need to flirt, too.
As Valentine's Day approaches, it's time to study up on what does — or doesn't — work when it comes to flirting. Business Insider found some of the most intriguing facts and social science studies on the art of flirtation, so you can saunter over to the object of your affection with confidence. In a review of the literature on flirtingNorthern Illinois University professor David Dryden Henningsen identified six different motivations for the behavior:.
In that study, Henningsen asked female and 99 male students to write out a hypothetical flirty conversation between a man and a woman, then identify the motivations for the things they said. The behaviors broke down along gender norms: Men were ificantly more likely to have a sexual motivation, while women tended to have a relational one.
After studying married people for a studyUniversity of Kentucky researcher Brandi Frisby noted that most of them flirted — by playing "footsies" or whispering in their partner's ear, for example — as a means of maintaining and emphasizing intimacy. Oftentimes, she wrote in her paper, married couples flirted to "create a private world with the spouse.
According to a widely cited study by State University of New York psychologist Arthur Aronpeople feel more closely bonded when they ask each other intimate questions, as in " What roles do love and affection play in your life? Six months later, two of the participants a tiny fraction of the original study group even found themselves in love — an intriguing result, though not a ificant one.
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Evidence from multiple studies supports the idea that, among heterosexual people, men tend to overperceive sexual interest from women, while women tend to underperceive sexual interest from men. A study published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology surveyed hundreds of undergraduate students from Norway, which according to the UN is one of the world's most "gender egalitarian nations.
Researchers found more women had been subject to instances where men overperceive sexual interest from them than men. Young, single, and sexuality-fluid participants also experienced being over-sexualized more often. According to a study led by University of British Columbia psychologist Jessica Tracy, heterosexual men and women diverge greatly in the facial expressions they fancy.
University of New Mexico evolutionary psychologist Steven W. Gangestad told Psychology Today in that flirting is a "negotiation process" that happens after the first moments of attraction. It's a subtle sort of testing the waters. You don't just say, " I'm attracted to you; are you attracted to me? According to research from Webster University psychologist Monica Moore who studied people's flirting behavior at singles bars, shopping malls, and other places where young people meetwomen who smiled and made eye contact with others were more likely to be approached than those who were simply good looking.
InJeffrey A. Hall and Chong Xing published research that suggests there are five different styles of flirting. Inthey followed up on this research by breaking down each style into a series of verbal and nonverbal behaviors.
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Here are some key behaviors of each type, as described by Susan Krauss Whitbourne on Psychology Today :. You can take a quizdeveloped by Hall to figure out which style best describes you. If you're flirting with someone perceived as higher status than you, being more subtle will lead to more success, according to research.
A study conducted by University of Pennsylvania professors found flirters who can adjust how overtly they flirt will have the best success. If successful, flirting can lead others to think you are also funny or creative, as well as attractive.
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The website analyzed 60, messages on dating apps to find the words that got the best responses. Women messaging men first receive responses less often, but using the word "nice" works best. Scientists have long speculated on how pheromones, or chemicals released by your body that have an impact on people around you, contribute to physical attraction.
A study out of Florida State University found men who were exposed to pheromones released by ovulating women were more likely to drink alcohol and flirt with women. World globe An icon of the world globe, indicating different international options. Get the Insider App.
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Corporate org charts. Newsletter preferences. Premium articles. Executive Lifestyle. Shana Lebowitz and Allana Akhtar. Flirting is important for couples as well as for singles. Business Insider rounded up some of the most fascinating findings about flirting, according to social scientists — just in time for Valentine's Day. Most people don't like traditional pick-up lines, and men tend to overestimate how interested women are.
Visit Business Insider's home for more stories. People flirt for six different reasons. Couples need to flirt, too. People feel connected when they get past the small talk.
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